I've noticed that when I see a post on Instagram of a beautiful woman, I start to compare myself to her; "why can't my hair look like that?" "my skin looks horrible compared to hers" etc, but in order to be a better me I need to stop. At the end of the day, I will be the one who is feeling inadequate not the woman in the picture.
How do I stop this feeling?
1. Addressing it: What about this other person is causing me to be jealous? Hair? Clothes? Their lifestyle?
2: Embracing it: Now that I have figured out why I feel certain feelings, I can start working on them. This problem is based on insecurities and lack of confidence; I feel this way because I feel that I am not good enough compared to this other person. Now, I can start to let go of these feelings and work on myself.
3. Ignoring it: Negative influences will only continue being negative if I allow them. For the time being I will get rid of all negative influences, this includes unfollowing people on Twitter and Instagram, if I feel they aren't a positive influence in my life.
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Monday, February 25, 2013
Monday, February 18, 2013
"me" Monday: learning to be patient
I am guilty of being the person who when they want something, they want it right now. Like college, I cannot wait to get out there and be free, and I want that freedom right now. But after telling my boyfriend this, he said "the only way to rush time is to be patient". I'll admit I was a bit thrown off and confused because he was trying to get philosophical on me.
Anyway, I get the gist of what he's trying to say and I will be putting this on my list of goals for 2013. How will I do this, you ask?
1. Focusing on today rather than the future.
-while it is good to have plans for the future, I tend to think about them so much that I neglect things that are happening now. Example: instead of doing homework or applying to scholarships, I'll be looking at houses I want in the future, and I'll get so involved in that, my homework gets done last minute.
-I will try to make things lists of things that need to be done now, and lists of things that can be done in the future with deadline next to them so that I can prioritize.
- from this list, each day I will check what needs to be done, do my higher priority items, then I can reward myself by looking at hair blogs or something.
Is patience a hurdle you are trying to jump over? What has worked for you?
Anyway, I get the gist of what he's trying to say and I will be putting this on my list of goals for 2013. How will I do this, you ask?
1. Focusing on today rather than the future.
-while it is good to have plans for the future, I tend to think about them so much that I neglect things that are happening now. Example: instead of doing homework or applying to scholarships, I'll be looking at houses I want in the future, and I'll get so involved in that, my homework gets done last minute.
-I will try to make things lists of things that need to be done now, and lists of things that can be done in the future with deadline next to them so that I can prioritize.
- from this list, each day I will check what needs to be done, do my higher priority items, then I can reward myself by looking at hair blogs or something.
Is patience a hurdle you are trying to jump over? What has worked for you?
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